Living With Girlfriend

I haven't really had a true "roommate" since Daniel Mirny in Baker dorm freshman year at MIT. Even then, I spent a few months at Sigma Nu in the basement "womb" preferring my own space when possible. At age 18, you don't really know yourself. But I knew enough to be alone.

I left the frat and found a single in Senior Haus. I'm grateful Brad Bachu lived across the hall and we became close neighborhood pals for the rest of my time at MIT. We are friends to this day. I have a lot of friends. In my mind our relationships are vibrant, warm, loving, strong. In reality, at this point we are just old college acquaintances. People who send emails, an occasional text, stay 1st degree on Linkedin. Hopefully subscribe to the sparse podcasts and blogs where our names appear.

I have publicly blogged about my previous serious relationship with Rachel Poonsiriwong. She features most prominently in my Now post from 2024, but also tangentially appears in subsequent posts like these. Then the breakup, just a bullet point in a list of other difficult situations as well. I look back fondly on my scar tissue.

Request for wife was answered!

Alexandra is only the

• 2nd one (rachel)
• women = you can choose one who you need to work around, or you can choose one (much harder) who works around you (because you're right and she sees that enough to trust you – secretary maxxing)
  • this is from someone else's blog where they said "after some time, i've come to deeply appreciate there's a reason behind every little thing she does"
  • if you are systematic thinker then you don't need reasons, or you can ignore them mostly and explain why your root cause is more deep
  • this requires her to have strong reason and logic appreciation
• Seth Godin is the most genius guru. he knows how and when to help others. he has deep operationalized self-awareness. millions of data points happen in the tone of someone's thinking out loud (talking). he can ingest them and see patterns very fast.
  • crucially, he has also thought deeply about his inputs: linear, time is it.
  • most people think about the proxy of money for impact
  • the correct topology is to map input time to leverage of cultural output (civilizational output). the person who maximizes this approaches Hari Seldon's ideal (prime radiant)
• she died laughing during Project Hail Mary at scenes where nobody else was laughing. we discussed afterwards the discrepancy between 11yrs for message to travel vs 4yrs for the return journey. time dilation due to relativistic speeds makes sense. also liftoff from earth is chemical fuel not the special lightweight one for the journey requiring 2M whatever units. thanks Grok
  • first time humanity has a better choice than writing science fiction: actually just build it.
  • literature remains. but the movie is an anachronism. we would send robots not people now, probably.